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They say cruel things during arguments and later insist they never said them or that I imagined it
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I have been told I am too sensitive, unstable or overreacting so often that I now question my own judgement
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I can start an argument knowing I was hurt and somehow end it believing everything was my fault
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I am regularly called useless, weak, selfish, stupid or a failure when I disagree or make a mistake
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My appearance, work, income or intelligence is mocked and then I am told I cannot take a joke
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I used to speak confidently, but now I stay quiet because I expect to be criticised, shouted at or humiliated
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My phone, messages, location or friendships are checked and I am expected to explain who I speak to
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Seeing friends or family creates so much anger, accusation or punishment that I have gradually become isolated
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I change what I wear, where I go, who I meet or what I say because I am scared of the reaction afterwards
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If I disagree or say no, they may ignore me for days until I apologise, give in or do what they wanted
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Divorce, abandonment, taking the children or ending the relationship is threatened whenever I set a boundary
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I agree to things I do not want because dealing with their anger, silence or punishment feels worse than giving in
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Arguments have included pushing, grabbing, hitting, throwing things or threats of violence, and I now stay constantly on edge
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I have been pressured, guilted, threatened or frightened into sexual intimacy when I did not want it
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Things I shared privately about my body, sexuality, fears or past have later been used to shame or control me
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The relationship ended, but a raised voice or angry tone can still make me panic, shut down or start apologising
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I am no longer with them, but I still hear their criticism in my head whenever I make a mistake or decision
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I am with someone new who treats me well, but part of me is still waiting for the criticism, control or punishment to begin
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I left the relationship but still ask other people to confirm simple decisions because I no longer trust myself
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What happened physically or sexually in my previous relationship still affects how safe I feel with touch and intimacy now
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I thought leaving would make everything normal again, but fear, shame, anger and low confidence followed me into the rest of my life
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When I say something hurts me, I am mocked for being weak or told that a real man would not react this way
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My insecurities or private emotions have been used against me in arguments, so I stopped telling anyone what happens at home
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I have been insulted and controlled for years but still struggle to call it abuse because I am a man
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A parent still uses guilt, comparison, insults or humiliation whenever I make a choice they do not approve of
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I am an adult, but saying no to my family still makes me feel selfish, disloyal or like a bad child
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I keep changing major life decisions because guilt, anger or rejection from my family feels unbearable
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